Do you not know that your bodies are temples of
the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have
received from God? You are not your own.
1 Corinthians 6:19
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| Hi! This is me. I'm a big man myself so I think I can talk on this a little. |
So just in case, you're wondering (for those who don't know me personally), how can I talk on this subject? Well, I'm a big person myself. Now I only recently heard of the fat acceptance movement. Maybe a little over a year ago and I thought it was a bit...odd. I'm not sure what these people are exactly fighting for. I'm guessing acceptance given the name but acceptance of what? being fat? Like I said I don't know so I dug a little bit and was a little surprised by my findings. It seems as though a majority of these people (mainly women) want the world to embrace them in their large sizes and wants to accept their lifestyle as a healthy one. That calling them unhealthy, unattractive and more is a form of hate speech. In a time where nearly everything offends everybody I shouldn't be surprised but being this is closer to home for me I guess that's why I'm choosing to talk about it.
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| Though it sucks and isn't necessary no one is obligated to be kind to us |
Now, I agree 1000% that we ALL should treat each other with decency. Respect me and I'll respect you. It's basic etiquette. However, the unfortunate reality is no one is OBLIGATED to be kind to you. If someone had a bad day and is taking it out on everyone and their mom it may not be needed but it isn't illegal. Other times some people are just rude for the sake of being rude. They like insulting people sometimes for their own entertainment. This can be done by trolls behind the safety of their computer/phone screen or people bold enough to insult you in your face because you know "you're fat and you can't catch me." I wish we could be more kind to one another. Insults aren't necessary
even if it's grounded in truth. Yes, I'm fat. I'm aware and you don't have to tell me that every time you see me. I've been bullied because of my weight, called everything from "Free Willy" to "Yokozuna." I've been dealt the "you're so fat..." jokes to personal jokes regarding my body. It hurt, I didn't like it, I do believe it played a part during my time of suicide ideation but the truth is even though bullying is heavily frowned upon today and is more times than not punishable, no one can really be stopped and THAT'S something we big people have to accept. |
No one has to compliment you for being big and confident. If you are, great! I'm happy for you but that doesn't mean everyone else will be. I've been called disgusting, given stank faces when in public and whenever a school bus full of kids drove by I knew I was getting commentary but I expected it because common decency isn't a law. Another thing is no one is obligated to be interested in you romantically. Yes, people should look beyond the physical, that's highly desirable but the truth is
people DO look at your body. There's a reason why women stare a little longer when a ripped guy walks around without a shirt. There's a reason why when women walk by in clothes that hug their body men look a little longer. We naturally look at the body. Now yes, there is a community of men who appreciate bigger women but some ladies in this group want ALL men to give them chance at dating and that might sound nice on paper but this violates a persons right to have preferences. I'm in the minority as a large portion of women don't flock to big men as often as men to big women. I understand that I can't force a lady to like me. If she's not into big men, that's the end of it. |
| Steven Jason Williams (aka Boogie2988) once weighed 587lbs. After gastric bypass, Steven has lost well over 200lbs. |
Thirdly, I cannot and will not endorse an unhealthy lifestyle. Yes, I know that there are SOME big people who are big and healthy for the most part. I've been fortunate enough to be big and not have any issues with cholesterol, high blood sugar, etc. However, this doesn't mean I have won't have complications in the future if I don't tend to my weight. As a Christian, the Bible tells me my body is the temple of the spirit and that doesn't mean a bigger body means the spirit is in a mansion. Also, I want to live as long as I can. I'm fully aware tomorrow is not promised to anyone but that doesn't mean I should abuse the days I'm still here by endangering my health. Being big, fat, obese, morbidly obese, etc is not healthy. I'm sorry but it's true. Our bones will suffer faster, feet will hurt more, our hearts are working harder and it's just not healthy. I remember a quote from a Youtuber some may know as Boogie2988 (pictured above). He was quoting someone else but it stuck with me, he said: "There's a lot of old people, a lot of fat people but there's not a lot of old fat people." That was a sobering thought. So, in the end, I support the idea of treating everyone like a decent human being but I do not support that people should be forced to like, date or accept you. I refuse to say being fat is OK when it's not. Outside of medical reasons that may cause weight loss difficulty if you can lose the weight, you should. When I had lost only 30 lbs I felt better, had more energy, was more alert so imagine if I lost 100 or more? I'm not saying anyone is ugly for being big because there are beautiful plus size women but with extra weight, we can possibly carry more risks that may take us to the grave sooner than we should and no amount of beauty, positivity, social media followers or an acceptance movement will change that.
What do you think?
Is the fat acceptance movement a good thing? Why or why not?
Is someones weight a deal breaker in terms of dating?
Should the church discuss health issues or is that too personal?
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