It's estimated that at least 1,000 new dating apps are created each year and some estimate that there may be well over 8,000 active dating services. Some titans of the dating app world you may already know; Match, Chemistry, eHarmony, BlackPeopleMeet.Com, FarmersOnly.Com, Coffee Meets Bagel, Christian Mingle and probably the hottest and most notorious one...Tinder. With it's extraordinarily simple concept, Tinder is passing many of it's competitors in an impressive rate. So for those of you that's been living under Windows 98, Tinder is dating app with a very simple format. You see someone you like? Swipe right. They look busted in your eyes? Swipe left. You really like what you see? Swipe up. That simple. If the person you swiped right also swiped you right, you both match and our able to message one another. At least I think that's how it goes.
It sounds messy the way I'm describing it but it really is simple. Yes, occasionally I will go to Tinder myself and do some swiping. It wasn't until recently though that I realized something about the app. "Wait a minute" I thought to myself "This is really going based on appearance more than anything else!" Sure, Tinder allows you to tell a brief summary of yourself but what made it popular is it's "swipe mechanic" that allows users to quickly browse through potential partners simply based on looks. I seriously doubt when people are going through 50-100 profiles or more they're reading the summary every time. Tinder is smart in the sense that it's catering to the ideology of "looks are everything." Something us believers are taught other wise.
1 Samuel 16:7 says "Do not consider his appearance or his height...Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." Now this verse was speaking on who would later be known as King David but the application is still the same. We shouldn't judge people by their appearances and that should include our potential spouses. I'm not saying we're not allowed to have preferences because people do. Some women like taller men and some men like women who are plus sized. Sometimes though our preferences can limit who God may WANT to put in your life as opposed to who YOU want but that's another blog. Back to the topic at hand.
Now, should Christians use Tinder? Sure, if they want. Like I said I have a Tinder account (don't judge me) and I have only received 1 right swipe since I've joined back in December 😒. In my humble opinion I don't think Tinder is believer friendly but I may be wrong. The idea behind Tinder is really for people to "hookup" but really that could mean ANYTHNG. I'm not saying Christian Mingle is the end all be all of believers dating because you'd have to assume that the millions of "Christians" that are on there are the believers they say they are. Than again that's the risk of any dating site or app.
Unfortunately as far as appearances go, for many, that IS the first impression and not your character. Sure, you should always try your best to look good but look good for you. Besides your best "look" may be completely different from someone else's. In either case find and/or pray for somebody who'll like and eventually love you for who you are. Because seriously, fashion changes and as you get older you will start getting wrinkly and saggy so physical appearances won't always be there but your personality and character will. Be careful my single folk when looking and always ask God to guide your decisions in dating, courting and swiping. Now if you'll excuse me, I think I'm gonna try Gluten Free Single.
- William
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