asking these questions was changed to protect their identity (the gender-neutral "Alex" name is being used).
So the last few weeks on my social media, more specifically Instagram, I've been posting stories in or surrounding the LGBT community. Everything was pretty chill throughout those weeks until recently I had a conversation with a person who felt I was attacking the group. They had a lot of questions and I did my best to answer them all. In the end, I do believe everything was done respectfully. I removed any pronouns that would reveal "Alex's" Identity and outside of censorship none of this conversation has been edited or altered. The final conversation below was approved by both parties.
(*) means Censorship of curse words/vulgar languages and (-) means a term of endearment or pronoun.
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Alex: Yo, can we talk? you got time?
Me: Yeah, I'm just laying down, wassup?
Alex: You've been posting a lot of (****) about gay people and lgbt and I wanna kno why ðŸ˜
Me: Hey ----. I'm not sure what you mean by that. If you think I'm targeting you I'm not.
Alex: No you're targeting everyone and that's (****)ed up.
Me: Alex, I think you're really misinterpreting my intentions.
Alex: Ok 4 example why did you post about the preacher being arrested for a hate crime?
Me: 1st, it wasn't a hate crime. 2nd I posted it because it broke my heart that the brother couldn't share the love of God because it was considered hate speech but if you look at the video it was the LGBT people that were aggressive towards despite his calm demeanor. I posted it because some people want that law here in America and if that happens a lot of believers are in trouble.
Alex: 🙄
Alex: No one is gonna throw yall in jail for talking about jesus
Me: You sure about that? There's already plenty of people out here in America giving us a bad name so I'm sure there'd be people dying to see us behind bars. You know believers are getting murdered in other countries and continents right?
Alex: They kill gay people to
Me: It's tragic but you really want to compare the 2? Murder is murder, yes but statistically speaking more believers die for excepting Christ than people of the LGBT. We've talked about martyrs before
so you already know.
Alex: They killed 50 People in the PULSE shooting. Ya'll don't get that here!
Me: You really just said that? Really ----?
Alex: Because it's (****)ing true. Ya'll never got shot up in the states just for being in a club or being yourself.
Me: Sutherland Spring Church Shooting (26 dead), Charleston Church Shooting (9 dead) to name a few. Those people were just worshiping God or having a Bible Study.
Alex: We still got more tho
Me: 🤦♂️
Me: You missed the point entirely.
(A few minutes passed)
Alex: ok you right, my fault I just got heated. You're a smart guy so can I ask you a few questions? Like legit no bull(****) questions. I wanna know your point of view.
Me: Gimme a few?
Alex: Ok
(a few minutes pass)
Me: Alright, go ahead.
Alex: Do you hate gay people?
Me: I don't hate gays, bi's, trans or anyone else in that community.
Alex: I know you deep in God and all that so do you think people from LGBTQI are going to hell?
Me: I can't answer that for ANY PERSON. I don't know anyone's walk with God and it's not my place to know where they're going to spend eternity. All I do know is unrepented sin definitely puts us ALL at risk.
Alex: So being gay is a sin?
Me: The bible is very clear on that
Alex: Ya'll say it's an abomination but that was the old testament. Ya'll ain't' supposed to follow that no more.
Me: A lot of people believe that and those people are dead wrong. Jesus was very clear on the older law that it should be taken within the proper understanding and not just face value but if that's what you're going based on there are New Testament verses that touch on it too.
Alex: I notice you ain't directly answer the question.
Me: I did
Alex: You said the scripture but I wanna know what you think?
Me: In accordance with scripture and since I am a believer, yes, I believe it's a sin. Not just homosexuality but bisexuality and anything else outside of God's intended design.
Alex: But what if everyone was gay? What if the world started with gay people?
Me: Than there'd only be 2 people, they die of old age and that's it.
Alex: LM(*)O! Ayo that was actually funny. That was dumb I shouldve asked that different.
Me: You're fine lol.
(a few minutes pass)
Alex: You posted about the rainbow like a week or 2 ago, you said something about the real meaning or something like that. What you mean?
Me: In the account of Noah when the worldwide flood took place God used the rainbow as a symbol of a promise to never flood the world again. It was about a promise way before it was about pride.
Alex: Its sounds like it bothers you tho
Me: Honestly? It does. I low key get upset whenever I see the rainbow used for something it was never intended to be used for. I take it personally as they stole a symbol of God for there own purposes.
Alex: It's not even that deep tho
Me: To be fair Alex, you don't consider yourself a Christian so I don't expect you to understand.
Alex: wait a minute. I believe in God tho. That's actually a good question to, do you think you can be gay, bi, or whatever else and still be a Christian? Cuz I know people like that.
Me: That's honestly a little harder to answer. Not because there isn't one but because of the emotional triggering it can cause. In the end, I'm not trying to hurt nobody or judge peoples walk with God. However, by definition, to be a Christian you have to be a follower of Christ. To be a follower of Christ you must then have to adhere to the mandates Jesus gave us as believers. We all sin, be it the lust of the flesh, greed, envy, etc and unrepentance is ultimately what causes the separation of God in our lives. So if we live unrepented than I don't think we can genuinely call ourselves believers. That's where people come and modify the Bible and create there own religions to accommodate how they feel. Either we're believers with a biblical world view or simply believers by a claim. Sorry for the long answer
Alex: Nah, you good. That's actually an answer I like cuz you weren't disrespectful about it.
Alex: Hold on I'm trying to think of a good question...
Me: Ok
(a few minutes pass)
Alex: Would you go to a gay wedding?
Me: That is a difficult question for me. Because in one hand I want to support my friend or family but at the same time I know being in attendance shows I also support their decision which goes against my beliefs and what I believe to be against Gods design. Not showing up can cause a rift in our relationship but then I have to consider my relationship with God as well. In the end, I have to answer to him and they won't be able to defend me as they will have to answer to God too. My answer, most likely I wouldn't and I honestly hope I'm never put in that predicament.
Alex: But love is love tho. They just following they heart.
Me: The scriptures are clear that the heart is deceitful above all things. You honestly don't have to be a believer to know that. People often say think with your head not your heart because emotions are very tricky. Just because someone or something makes you feel good inside doesn't mean that they're/it's good for you. Pizza is delicious but eating it every day 3 times a day will most likely kill you. Indulging in the desires of our heart may feel good for an uncounted amount of time but it will eventually eat away at you. Some people are just too entranced to notice.
Alex: I mean, I agree with some of that. The hearts desire (***) makes sense tho. You remember what
happened with my cousin.
Me: I know, and that's honestly a great example.
(We carried a bit into the story of Alex's cousin which didn't add to much to this conversation and
we both agreed it didn't need to be in here)
Alex: LM(*)O, anyway, I gotta go to bed soon but I just have a few more. Would you date someone from LGBT?
Me: Um...I'm straight. I don't think I can date anyone in there even if I wanted to.
Alex: Not true there's bisexuals and transexuals.
Me: No disrespect to them but I'd never date a transperson. Bisexuals, I don't think I could because it bothers me knowing if I fall in love with her and she doesn't feel the same I could lose her to a woman and I can't compete with a woman.
Alex: LM(**)O! I'm dead. B4 I keep going I just wanna say sorry for how I aggressive I got in the beginning. I was being a (****)head.
Me: It's cool. You're not the first and you won't be the last I'm sure.
Alex: You believe LGBTQ should fight in war?
Me: Your sexuality has nothing to do with your ability to fight for our country, being a law enforcement officer, etc. I don't care if your gay, bi, trans or identify as an Australian bullfrog if you saved someone's life, God bless and I salute.
Alex: WT(*)? Bullfrog 🤣
Alex: What about that. people identifying as different people?? Like genders and stuff?
Me: There are only 2 genders. Always have been, always will be. I heard one woman talk about in the "spectrum" of gender there can literally be an infinite amount of genders which to me sounds like imagination on overkill. So if I wake up one day and say "you know, today I feel like a Black, Southern Woman" I suddenly am? Because I feel like it? There's a guy who left his wife and kids to be a transgender identifying as a 6-year-old girl and it's ok because that's how he felt. We got men who think they're women because it's how they feel and then they compete in athletics where they clearly dominate because of genetics like that Texas transgender who won the high school girls wrestling title. I personally in such a weird place now that if you feel it...it's who you are and that always isn't true.
Alex: Why don't you use the pronouns? Thats real rude willy
Me: In conversation, out of politeness and respect, yes, I will use their preferred pronouns. However in debates or conversations like this where I'm asked my points of view and opinions I use what is biologically correct.
Alex: Oh ok. Does God make people gay?
Me: I don't believe so. There are so many contributing factors to a persons mindset on their sexuality but I definitely don't think God is one of them. Upbringing, Molestation, Broken Heartedness, etc. Also stereotypes like boys like blue and girls like pink create this impression that "Oh, but I like pink...so maybe I'm supposed to be a girl" or a little girl saying "I like getting dirty in the mud, playing with toy trucks instead of dolls...maybe I'm a boy." We never tell these kids that you can enjoy these things and still be the gender/sex you were born as. They're straight men with feminine qualities and there are straight women who are just tomboys.
Alex: I don't know if I can agree with that. I mean yeah I was told by my aunty that (-) are not supposed to like (-) because that means your a (-). I don't know I feel like I'd be denying who I am.
Me: See there? You're talking about feelings. Like I said feelings don't always mean something. Like I said what can't you like (-) and still be (-)? If I notice a man is good looking, I can acknowledge him like "Yo my man you looking good" and it doesn't have to mean anything romantic or sexual. We can experience that differently and still be in line with God's design.
Alex: Idk bro. I understand what you saying like forreal you got me low key thinking
Me: Alex, I got love for you regardless but if you tell me to tell you what I think about something I will, to the best of my ability, to tell what I believe the truth is.
Alex: What if it's not true for me?
Me: Personal truth is a dangerous thing Alex, because if we all have personal truths what if someone's truth says your truth is a lie?
Alex: I wouldn't care, it ain't true
Me: But that's their truth
Alex: They truth is wrong
Me: Is that statement true?
Alex WT(*)?
Me: Is what you're saying true?
Alex: Yeah
Me: Not it's not, my truth says it isn't
Alex: 😂
Alex: I see what you doing. I get it.
Me: lol. There is no your truth or my truth. Just THE truth. The beautiful part is we have the freedom to accept it or not.
Alex: Right, that's real.
Me: One of my favorite theologians once said this, and I'm paraphrasing "We have the freedom of choice but we do not have the freedom of outcome."
Alex: That Ravi guy you watch a lot right?
Me: Yeah 😆
Alex: Alright bro, I gotta go to work soon so I'll talk to you later.
Alex: My bad again for earlier
Me: You good (-), God bless Alex. Have a good night
Alex: 🤟






















